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      I'm worried about not being a good mum

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      Parenting takes practice!

      Few women find the path to motherhood easy so you really shouldn’t expect to be able to do everything quickly and easily to start off with – being a mum takes practice, patience and lots of cuddles! All babies are unique too so what works best for one baby might not work with another.

      It’s important to remember that as well as feeding, changing and bedtime routines, being a good mum is also about giving your baby a happy, safe home to grow up in, and giving them lots of love and attention. Be prepared to play lots of games, sing silly songs and read in funny voices – being a mum will really bring out the child in you!

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      Learn the baby basics

      If you’re feeling unsure about things, a good place to start is asking any friends or family with babies if you can spend some time with them and perhaps have a go at helping them out with their baby? Or why not look to see if your antenatal class offers baby-care advice? There might also be a postnatal class you can sign up to which will give you some guidance. 

      There are lots of books available about motherhood and ways to look after your baby, which can help give you some ideas. However, if you read a few of these you’ll soon see that the experts have different ideas about parenting too!

      Ask for help

      Being a mum is a big responsibility, so you’re bound to be nervous, but you don’t have to do it alone. There are loads of people you can ask for advice – your partner, health visitor, midwife, family or friends.

      Other mums can also be a great source of support, and sharing your experiences will help you see how normal it is to have worries about being a good mum. It’s a sign that you care about your baby and want to do things well, so take heart! It takes everyone time to get into the swing of things at first but you’ll gradually find the methods that suit you and your baby best.

      Any more questions?

      Our specialist baby advisors and experienced mums are here to talk and ready to help whenever you need them. You can call us or reach us on Live Chat 8.30am-5.30pm Monday-Friday.

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