I'm just a bump, I want me back!

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      Bump outside

      I just want someone to pay attention to me!

      When you get pregnant, it’s normal for everyone and everything to focus on your bump, which is lovely most of the time. But in later stages of pregnancy, you may find yourself feeling a bit invisible and longing to be appreciated as an individual. 

      As your bump gets bigger, getting a good night's sleep can be a nightmare! And being tired just makes you feel even more grouchy and sorry for yourself. If those feelings start to get you down and you don't feel any better after two weeks, it's worth speaking to your healthcare professional about depression in pregnancy.

      Otherwise give yourself a break! indulge in some me-time and ask friends and loved ones to help out around the house, while you put your feet up!


      Take care of yourself

      If you do feel a bit overlooked, mention it to your partner and close friends and family, so they know how you’re feeling. Then try and take some time out to treat yourself to things that make you feel good, for instance:

      • Go to the cinema (but sit close to the aisle in case you need a quick loo break!).
      • Get your partner to cook your favourite meal at home and enjoy a romantic candle-lit dinner together.
      • Exercising gently releases feel-good chemicals in your body and will actually help you feel good and sleep better at night too (as long as you stop a good four hours before bedtime). Regular exercise can also build up your stamina, helping you get through labour.  
      • There’s nothing like a pampering session! Whether it’s going for a manicure, pedicure, a new haircut, or a relaxing massage with pregnancy-safe oils such as lavender, just take some time out and treat yourself.

      Learn to love your pregnancy

      Try to remember the positive side of your bump – even if you're not enjoying pregnancy right now! It’s not every day that men offer you their seat, women smile admiringly and you get to put your feet up and eat ice-cream/marmalade/marmite (delete as applicable!) until it’s coming out of your ears. Remember how excited and happy you were in the early days of pregnancy – and think about how amazing it’ll be to hold your baby in your arms for the first time.

      Any more questions?

      Our specialist baby advisors and experienced mums are here to talk and ready to help whenever you need them. You can call us or reach us on Live Chat 8.30am-5.30pm Monday-Friday.

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